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How to reduce daily conflict with your child and have peace, cooperation, and respect in your home, without shouting, punishments, or ‘walking on eggshells’.
Get the simple, step-by-step process for improving your relationship with your child.
You started your own family with an ideal vision of raising compassionate, successful children, enjoying fun outings and making happy memories together.
But… your kiddo is kind of throwing you for a loop.
They just won’t seem to listen to you.
They’re strong-willed and set on doing what they want to do.
They can’t stand being told ‘no’, and just won’t accept it when they don’t get their way.
You notice they lie to you, they struggle to manage their emotions, and everything is a battle.
You dread mornings, transitions, and bedtime.
And the sibling fighting is out of control.
You’ve tried it all.
You’re tired, frustrated, discouraged, and at a loss.
You’ve tried raising your voice to get them to listen, repeating yourself so they’ll do what you asked.
You’ve tried timeouts, taking things away, coming up with consequences, sending them to their room, threats, bribes, reward charts, punishments, you name it. Anything to motivate your child to comply.
And you may have seen a little improvement for a short while with some of these things, but it eventually goes right back to the way things were.
You’re stumped and feeling frustrated because you’re using the tools your parents used, and it worked! Now, “why won’t it work with my kid?”.
You’re tired of yelling and reacting on your kid all the time.
You’re tired of dealing with daily conflict with them.
You’re struggling to manage your own emotions while your child struggles, and you feel helpless.
You’re scared that you are losing your child and growing further and further apart from them.
You worry that you’re ‘not doing it right’ or causing harm, but you don’t know what else to do instead.
You start feeling discouraged and doubtful that your situation can even be remedied.
And you feel like you’re failing. Failing your child. Failing your partner. Failing yourself.
You feel like you’re falling short and letting your family down.
You feel guilt for repeatedly showing frustration with your child.
You fear that you are disappointing your child or your partner, and that you will create separation from them.
You’re just longing for peace and ease between you and your child, and in your home.
You wish you could feel more patient with your child.
You just want to feel confidence in your parenting.
You just want to know that you are setting your kids up to be successful, capable adults.
You’re longing to feel joy in your parenting again.
And you dream of having a close, loving relationship with your child, and happiness within your family.
You realize you feel so far from where you want to be and think “how did I get here?”.
I want you to know that it’s not your fault that you’ve been struggling, my friend.
If you have listened to any of this advice in the past, and you continue to struggle in your parenting, nothing is wrong with you!
It’s just inadequate information, and it’s just not scientifically supported. No wonder you haven’t seen the improvement you’re looking for!
You work so hard to instill your values in your child so that they will be successful.
You try to teach or fix your child’s behavior so that they learn and make better choices next time.
You use deep breathing and stress tools to give you the patience you need with your child.
You were following these ideas, hoping to finally have the peace and ease in your parenting that you’ve been wanting.
The thing is, having experienced many unsuccessful attempts at handling your child’s behaviors better or having a better relationship with them can make it feel like improvement is so far out of reach and just not even possible.
But I’m here to tell you, with the utmost certainty, that having peace, ease, patience, and joy in your parenting is possible for you.
Yes, you.
You CAN have true, deep, lasting patience with your kids.
You CAN feel confident, respected, and supported in your daily parenting.
You CAN navigate those everyday parenting scenarios with ease and security.
My simple and transformative parenting process teaches parents both the deep, inner healing aspects AND the practical, everyday skills and strategies. This combination is what leads to real, lasting change.
You need both to have a sturdy foundation you can always fall back on in the heat of the moment with your child.
I help you build fundamental skills:
Self-reflection
Self-awareness
Self-responsibility
I give you:
Steps
Tools
Frameworks
Procedures
Exercises
And even the words to use
…for the very best ways to navigate those typical, everyday parenting situations
Sibling conflict
Violating an agreement
Boundary-crossing
Arguments and disagreements
Power struggles
Hurtful behavior
This is not another program offering calming tools or quick fixes to change or control your child’s behavior.
I help parents improve their relationship with their kids by helping them understand them better, connect more, and communicate better.
I do this because I believe that a closer, more loving relationship with a parent can help reduce conflict and problematic behavior in kids.
In my method, I focus on the deep, commonly held fears that surround parenting, that block us from showing up for our kids with ease, presence, and empathy, helping you to retrain your nervous system, so that you stop falling into the cycle of reactive parenting. Because that’s just not helpful for anyone.
This clear and thorough parenting process was consciously designed to change your life.
It is heavily based on cognition, psychology, and nervous system science, because knowing what actually benefits our kids is more powerful than just repeating what’s been done to us.
It is wisdom guiding you back to simplicity in a noisy, chaotic world.
After working with parents for 20+ years, I know what parents value and really want underneath their desire for peace and ease, and their desire to eliminate meltdowns, tantrums, and non-compliant behaviors.
With a Master’s Degree in Psychology and a degree in Neuroscience, I understand what a developing brain needs most.
Plus, as a Positive Psychology Practitioner, I know exactly how to help kids, parents, and their relationship thrive, instead of just trying to fix what’s not working.
This is the solution that will have your child saying that you were the one they could come to, more than anyone else, when they struggled. Isn’t that every parent’s dream?
My step-by-step method teaches you what your child is really trying to say with their actions, what their behaviors really mean, and what they are really wanting and needing most. I know this because, not only have I conducted my own research study on the parent-child relationship, but also, I was that kid.
Meet Your Parenting Coach
Hi! I’m Christina Carter, creator of Intu It Parenting and Wellness, and parent-child relationship expert since 2014, helping parents improve their relationship with their kids.
As a Certified Conscious Parenting Coach, I’ve helped thousands of parents drastically increase daily positive interactions with their kids, helping them restore peace, ease, patience, trust, confidence, connection, respect, and joy in their parenting, and have helped families get back to simplicity.
Not only do I have a Master’s Degree in Psychology and a degree in Neuroscience, I also have my own published research study on the parent-child relationship, been featured in magazines, been on TV, been on podcasts, and host talks, school and parent trainings, and workshops for kids.
As a child, I felt frequent frustration from the inability to clearly and confidently communicate my needs, which commonly labeled me as difficult and defiant. And for that reason, I experienced a lot of disconnection and misunderstanding, when the thing I wanted and needed most was just the opposite.
As an adult, working with kids to change their behavior burned me out, and did not lead to real, lasting change.
But what my own research showed was that when a child feels connected with their caregiver, a child’s behavior improves.
Although the idea of more connection between parents and kids is eye-opening, I found that it was not enough to lead to lasting parenting change. I needed to address my own underlying fears and limiting beliefs that were getting in the way.
And found that success happened when I healed from the inside. And found this across the board in other parents.
Knowing what kids long for and what parents value, I have the tools to connect a parent and child, so that parents and children can have a close and loving relationship, daily. You don’t have to gently manipulate your kids' behavior in order to have control. You don’t have to change, fix, or overpower your child to instill obedience and compliance.
I know what it takes to create powerful change in your parenting, and that’s what I’m here to teach you.
Here is what a parent’s life looks like after following my parenting process:
Introducing
The Parent Mastery Process
The proven solution for increasing daily positive interactions, trust, peace, ease, patience, confidence, and joy in your parenting, without being reactive or passive, so that you can have a close, loving relationship with your child.
In this deeply transformative program, I teach parents my step-by-step method for how to restore peace, trust, connection, and respect without resorting to tactics like yelling, timeouts, threats, bribes, punishments, reward charts, avoidance, or trying to come up with consequences.
Here’s what you’ll find inside:
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You’ll learn exactly how to reflect and where you stand on your parenting path with tools and questions to stimulate reflection and bring about awareness, so that you begin to gain comfort with observing your physical, mental, and emotional states, and get clear about your parenting vision and goals. This means that you won’t be jumping into the learning part of this material without having properly self-assessed first, a crucial step in the transformation process.
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You’ll learn the 10 core pillars of empowered parenting, the traditional parenting styles, and become aware of your own generational parenting patterns, so that you can recognize the behaviors you were raised with and how it influenced you. This means that you’ll be able to identify unhelpful parenting tactics and avoid repeating the same behaviors with your children.
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You’ll learn the different attachment styles and how your system learns how to organize behavior to meet your need for safety and security, so that you can understand, not only how your attachment style was formed, but also all about your child’s attachment to you. You’ll also do some extensive personal reflection exercises here, so that you can begin making sense of the ways you seek security and connection today, no longer having to unconsciously react to reach a state of safety.
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You’ll learn and understand how the body responds to threat, why so many of your child’s behaviors are perceived as a threat, and how to retrain your nervous system to resolve this. You’ll also learn the different states of the nervous system and how to work with your child to reach a state of security. This will teach you how to have the capacity to be present. This means that you will know how to feel peace, ease, and patience during conflict and emotional outbursts, without having to struggle managing your own emotions or your child’s emotions.
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You will learn how to really see your child and what they are really trying to tell you underneath their behavior, and clearing out what gets in the way of us being able to do that daily, so that you can develop greater understanding and responsiveness when your child struggles, being able to give them exactly what they need most from you. This means that you’ll no longer keep spiraling down each time with your child into disconnection, conflict, or further dysregulation.
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You’ll learn how to name and monitor your own feelings and emotions, as well as help your child do the same, how to most effectively communicate feelings and needs, and develop a deep capacity for empathy, so that you’ll increase your comfort and ability to feel your emotions without feeling the need to rage or hide all the time.
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You’ll learn all about your relationship with your voice and self-expression, processes for the most effective communication, and generational habits that keep us from connecting in conversation, so that you can speak in a way that fosters the utmost connection and cooperation in your family. This means that you won’t have to resort to shouting, threats, or keep repeating yourself to gain respect or acknowledgement. You’ll be able to have conversations with them that go smoothly and don’t actually end in a feud every time.
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You’ll learn my 5-step signature process that can be used for any everyday parenting scenario with your child, replacing all disciplinary strategies like threats, punishments, bribes, timeouts, and trying to come up with consequences. You’ll also learn how to establish boundaries and limits that are respected, and the absolute best ways to approach consequences that promote trust, collaboration, peace, and connection. This means that you won’t have to exhaust yourself with constantly trying to use force or manipulation to gain respect and cooperation ever again.
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You’ll learn the purpose and value of anger, your personal relationship with anger and how to develop a healthy and appropriate relationship with it, and powerful everyday tools for navigating anger and aggression, so that you can show up for your child in total security and confidence when they display anger and aggression, and know exactly how to be with them in their anger and guide them. This means that you won’t have to feel dread or fear your child’s big feelings, or have to fight against their anger, which often leads to explosive arguments, disconnection, and the gradual erosion of your relationship with them. So that they feel like they can lean on you in their distress, rather than need to protect themselves from you.
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You’ll learn the huge variety of playful ways you can connect with your child, no matter their age, the types of play that your child prefers most, and the types of play that you like best, your limits in play, and even your wounding around play, so that play is not just a luxury once all the chores and to-dos are checked off, but an important and integral part of your daily parenting, that can alleviate a lot of the seriousness that comes with accomplishing our daily tasks. You’ll also learn how to teach your child important life lessons and concepts through storytelling.
PLUS videos, reflection workbooks, and more!
Also Included:
Personal guidance with twice-monthly virtual coaching calls
Because questions, and your particular blocks, will inevitably come up in this process, I’m offering 1-hour live Zoom coaching calls every other week for the 5-month duration of the program. So that you will never feel stuck, lost, or alone as you grow through this process. Because, let’s face it, there is nothing like getting 1:1 personalized, professional guidance when you’re facing your challenges and making lasting change like this. And, they will be recorded, so they’ll be available to you to go back and access at any point during the 5-month program.
Support and feedback from the student-only Facebook group
Because we all innately do better when we have support, I included access to a Facebook community for participating parents that they can utilize for the duration of the program (which is 5 months), so that parents can share their challenges, receive support and solutions from other real parents, and offer experience and encouragement for different points in their journey. So you won’t ever have to feel alone or isolated on this journey, or wonder if you’re the only one going through a particular challenge.
Lifetime access
Because parents have busy lives, and things change with each growing child, I’m giving you access to the material for life. So you can have it forever. To go back at any time and rework different topics in a way that applies most to your current parenting situation at the time. So you won’t ever have to wonder ‘what was that framework or strategy again?’ Or, ‘What do I do in this scenario again?’”. You will be able to access it as much as you need.
23 additional bonus courses, procedures, strategies, and exercises.
#1: Active and Reflective Listening procedure. Where you’ll learn the basics of ‘being’ with your child for more daily connection.
#2: Need for Control mini course. The why behind our desire for control and what to do about it.
#3: Working with your Attachment Style lessons. The ‘upsides’ to your particular attachment style so you don’t have to fight against it but instead use it to help you.
#4: Writing your Coherent Narrative exercises. The 4-step highly therapeutic process of making sense of your past.
#5: The Polyvagal System mini course. A basic breakdown of the 3 stages of the nervous system, and how to soundly return to a sense of safety no matter the state of your nervous system.
#6: Strengthening the Vagus Nerve. Where you’ll learn exercises that strengthen the communication between the brain and the gut, so that you can return to a state of calm more regularly, and be able to access peace and patience more often with your child.
#7: Anchoring framework. The 6-step process to use in any stressful parenting situation that helps us return to a state of inner security and be able to show up better for our children.
#8: Harbor framework. The 6-step process to use to co-regulate with your child and help their nervous system feel a sense of safety.
#9: Scripts for rupture and repair. Suggestions for language and phrases to use with your child when there has been harm or disconnection, that land with your child and help them to be receptive for reconnection.
#10: Core Limiting Beliefs procedure. Identifying our fundamental blocks and faulty ways of coping that are associated with pain and fear, that prevent us from fully being present, where you will learn how to soften and resolve these limiting beliefs and identify more constructive and supportive beliefs rooted in truth and reality.
#11: Feel framework. A 4-step process that helps you get comfortable with feeling your emotions without wanting to hide or run away.
#12: The Soothe framework. A 6-step procedure you can use with your child that fosters calm and connection, leading to greater cooperation and problem-solving.
#13: Empowered Conversation step-by-step strategy. A 10-step procedure that aids in having powerful, productive communication with your child, so that each person is heard, and each person’s needs are honored.
#14: What Type of Angry Are You reflection course. Identifying the specifics of your relationship with anger so that you can work with it and allow it to help you meet your needs constructively.
#15: Discovering Your Play Language mini course. Exploring what type of play you feel most comfortable with and why, and how you can blend this with your child’s play language.
#16: 5-Phase Therapeutic Story process. A fun framework for telling stories simply and powerfully - effective for any parent.
#17: Empathy Scripts and Practices. The words and language to use, as well as ways of developing more empathy, that foster closeness and connection with your child.
#18: Values and Strengths reflection process. Identifying your current values, and not just ideals, along with your character strengths, and how this benefits the way you parent.
#19: Self-Empathy process. Steps for self-understanding and self-forgiveness so that you are able to access more creativity, connection, and joy in your parenting.
#20: 5-Step Conflict Resolution practice. A go-to step-by-step guide for any scenario of conflict with your child that peacefully resolves disagreement and promotes connection beyond the scenario.
#21: Empowered Conversation scripts and exercises. How to speak and listen to your child or partner to create deeper acknowledgement, understanding, and win-win scenarios.
#22: 3-Step Empathy for Anger process. Working with anger by pairing it with the skills of empathy so that we can use anger productively.
#23: Healthy Aggression practices and prevention exercises. Ways to express and release anger that are satisfying and safe.
AND 3 Fast Action Additional Bonus Courses
Sibling Conflict and Rivalry
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A step by step mini course for retraining the way you approach sibling conflict and your role in their arguments and disagreements, so that you maintain your energy and your kids learn the meaningful skills of working together and conflict-resolution. Included are words and phrases to use, and age-appropriate expectations.
Diffusing A Power Struggle
3 Simple Steps for Daily Parenting Scenarios
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3 simple, effective steps to use with your child that allows children to want to work together to solve problems and use productive communication, creating more peace in your daily parenting and more connection for your child.
29 Powerful Ways to Connect With Your Child PDF
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Proven ideas that foster the utmost connection between you and your child, that lead to a close, loving, and lasting relationship with you, for all types of children and preferences.
What parents have to say about
The Parent Mastery Process
When it comes to the Parent Mastery Process, it works if you work it. I know that you will be thrilled with your experience.
If you do the work and haven’t gotten the results you should typically start seeing within 30 days, you can turn in your work and get your money back.
I make that guarantee because I KNOW that if you do the work, you will see improvement, you will experience transformation, you will have ‘aha moments’ and epiphanies.
The thing is, if you don’t utilize the workbooks, the video trainings, the coaching calls, and all the resources provided to you, we can’t guarantee the results.
As I mentioned before from my own story, it wasn’t enough to just know these concepts, I had to do the work to see lasting change.
But, improvement isn’t possible if you are not serious about making changes. This work is not easy, but I have made it extremely simple for you.
You can find the full terms and conditions here.
So… What’s All of This Worth?
But, that’s not what you’ll pay.
Here is what some other parents had to say about their experience in the program:
Frequently Asked Questions
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It is designed to be completed in 5 months. There are 10 lessons, and we comfortably allow 2 weeks for each lesson to be completed. For a total of 20 weeks, or 5 months. You can certainly work through the lessons at a faster or slower pace and still gain all the value you would from allowing 2 weeks for each lesson. No matter how fast or slow you work through the program, you will always have access to the program, and you will have a group coaching call every 2 weeks for 5 months from your purchase date, where you will have a chance to get 1:1 coaching with me to work through your blocks and challenges and have any questions answered.
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Yes! I recommend doing a little bit each evening before bed. Or, you can take a chunk of time on the weekend to work through a whole lesson. Either way, it is very doable, as you have 2 full weeks to really soak in each lesson. I originally designed the program where parents completed 1 lesson per week, and that was still doable. However, a few parents gave feedback that 2 weeks might be a bit more comfortable, because, you know, life happens! And I want to set parents up for as much success as possible.
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This program is just as transformational for loud and reactive parents as it is for more calm parents. Positive parenting is not passive parenting, and is not about detaching from reality. Forcing yourself not to care is not the route taken in this program. Not only is that approach not supportive for you or your child, but it does not teach the skills of emotional intelligence or how to achieve inner security during parenting challenges. This program focuses on bringing you out of your triggers that cause you to resort to power-over or power-under parenting strategies and into empowerment. This allows you to show up better for your child and work with them together as a team. So, no matter what your nature or personality is, these strategies will support you and who you are without you needing to change your personality, preferences, or anything about who you are.
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The program is for parents only. It is specifically designed to be a parent-centric program because when parents change, children change.
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The program material can be applied to all parent-child relationships, no matter what age, but I specialize in helping parents of children around ages 2 - 9.
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Definitely! It is ideal to have the child’s caregivers be involved and on the same page. However, it is not necessary in order to achieve the maximum benefits of this program. The full benefits are completely possible with one caregiver involved.
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Absolutely! Much of how we respond to our children today has to do with the fears, beliefs, and coping tools we formed in our childhood. Our kids’ emotions and behaviors bring up painful experiences from our past, and leads us to reactivity. So learning about our own emotions and nervous system and conditioned responses to stress, we can change it, and that - in turn - affects how we behave with our children. Because it is our responsibility to show them constructive ways of handling emotions, of regulating, and of reaching inner security. It is not effective to try to make our children do this without us doing this ourselves, when they learn everything about regulation from our actions and behaviors. Your new ability to show up with ease, presence, and more peace, will affect how your child thinks and feels about you, and about being around you, and their relationship with you. When you change, your child changes. Your improvement is the most powerful stimulus for improvement in your child.
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I proudly offer parents both the inner transformation AND the outer transformation. It’s not just tools to change your outside environment, and it’s certainly not tools to try to change or fix your child’s behavior. Trying to execute tools to change your environment without having done any inner change is like trying to ice the ingredients of a cake - the eggs, oil, water, and cake mix - when it hasn’t even been mixed or baked yet. It leads to disappointment, frustration, and feeling like a failure. I teach parents tools, strategies, and frameworks to do the inner work of building empathy, curiosity, emotional intelligence, security, and self-responsibility, and to do the outer work of building leadership, communication, navigating conflict, and boundary-setting, for a full, lasting, transformative experience in their everyday parenting and in their relationship with their child. Plus, the combination of my personal life experience with my formal education and expertise is the sprinkles on top!
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This is strictly a coaching program that helps you identify the ways you have learned to cope with stress in your life, how you bring that into your parenting, and how it may not be in service to you any longer or your relationship with your child, and we work to form new, supportive ways of coping that fosters a more loving relationship with your child. Although the nature of this work is therapeutic and transformational, it utilizes a coaching framework.
As we work together, if there are deeper, ongoing, underlying issues that surface, or if your child has experienced trauma or a significant event, it is important to seek the help of a licensed therapist as we continue to work through the parenting program.
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I’ve been there, too! There are a lot of trainings out there with bad information or that are poorly set up. And I’ve taken notes from those experiences! Don’t forget, also, that I’ve added in my 30-day ‘it works if you work it’ guarantee. Where if you are not seeing typical outcomes after 30 days, you can turn in your work and get your money back. If you go deep with the reflection workbooks in their entirety, take advantage of the coaching calls, and utilize the community support, this Parent Mastery Process, that I am so very proud of, will work for you. I have consciously crafted and designed this program to change your life. And for you to finally have the family life you’ve been dreaming of.
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The great news is that you don’t need to be completely ready. Your lifetime access means that this program is ready to support you whenever you are ready. If you can picture yourself making one small baby step, a little at a time, that’s where the biggest transformation comes from. That really is all you need to succeed here. Have you done that in the past? I bet you have. And you can do that again in this program.
Got additional questions? No problem! Email me at our customer service email address at christina@intuitparentingandwellness.com and I will be happy to answer them within 24 business hours.
Trying to decide if this is really for you?
Maybe you’re wondering if this will be too time-consuming.
Or concerned that your partner may not be on the same page with you.
Or wondering if this is going to be valuable for your particular situation or the stage of your child.
Here is some honest info that can help you decide.
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It actually doesn’t boil down to amount of time as much as it does the quality of the time you are spending. For instance, when your child isn’t wanting to get ready for school, spending time shouting or fighting your child doesn’t resolve it or help them problem-solve, and will often lead to a power struggle that drags on into a meltdown or tantrum, and will likely repeat the next day or later that week. Being involved in a way that is quality, like play, teamwork, and conflict-resolution, not only can take less amount of time to be resolved, but diminishes instances of conflict and power struggles over time, requiring less involvement in this way, over time.
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Not necessarily. A child only needs one person to show up for them in this way for this to influence them. It takes just 1 person to show them skills to regulate and to get comfortable with their emotions. And just like a child learns that there are different rules everywhere they go, they also learn the different parameters to expect with each parent or caregiver, with repeated exposure. That’s not to say that they will never test those parameters with each of you, but with repeated exposure, they learn what to expect from each parent. Does it help accelerate your child’s emotional intelligence when more people are involved in this manner? Absolutely! But it is also not impossible for your child to reap the ultimate benefits of this parenting approach from just 1 caregiver.
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Nope! No matter your past, your current approaches, or your child’s specific qualities and needs, the concepts of empowered parenting hold true and effective for any parent, because it is rooted in the science of physiology, cognition, emotions, the nervous system, human behavior and development. And how these systems function, grow, and thrive. You don’t need to try to avoid certain scenarios or situations for this to work, either. This approach is wayyy more sound and stable than that. And also, included are the basic approaches of acceptance, understanding, and having your child feel seen and heard, approaches that are healing across the board, no matter your past or present circumstances.
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It is never too late to mend your relationship with your child, no matter their age. And this program gives you age-appropriate approaches for your child, regardless of what age or stage they’re in. These concepts and approaches apply across the board.
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In the off-chance that your child does grow out of it, have they really learned the life-enriching tools you want for them? Or have they just learned how to behave in order to survive or earn your love? If you knew how to improve your parenting and your relationship with your child, you would have already. But you need guidance, so that you can stop wasting time struggling, and so that your child can stop struggling. A certain amount of struggle is completely typical and expected. But if you are spending most of your time feeling stressed, angry, or frustrated with your child’s behavior, this is your solution. By waiting to see if your child outgrows this phase, you’re wasting so much precious time that you could be guaranteed to enjoy with your child.
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Wonderful question! Depending on the issues you’re experiencing, it can be difficult to decipher. What I can say with confidence is this. Whether your child needs other support or not, they will benefit from you making this transformation. If much of what you struggle with is related to what you’ve been reading here, this program is perfect for you. I always recommend seeing what resolves once a parent completes this parenting process. More often than not, I hear from parents that their struggles with their child have been resolved, beyond their expectations. Your improvement is the most powerful stimulus for improvement in your child.
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It is common for us to mistake the unprocessed anger, fear, and sadness from exposure to harsh or neglectful parenting as strength. This “toughness” is nothing more than a shield we have learned to wear to protect ourselves because we don’t actually have the skills of true resilience. Harsh or neglectful parenting don’t actually teach true resilience. They mostly teach children how to shape and edit their actions and emotions so that they survive.
So, You’ve Got A Choice
You could…
Continue on the way things are, struggling through each day, hoping you will get lucky and that maybe one day things will eventually get better and improve.
Continue sacrificing your daily wellbeing and your family’s mental and emotional happiness.
Continue feeling daily frustration, resentment, and self-doubt.
Choose to try to resolve this the therapy route. Which would cost about 2 years of your time and $15,000 ($150 a session) if trying to reach the targeted transformation of the Parent Mastery Process. Double that if you and your child have separate sessions. Even with insurance, that’s two whole years of your child’s life you could be enjoying together.
Choose to try to resolve this by hiring a 1:1 life coach or mentor. Which would cost $5000, at the absolute very least, if you’re lucky. And yield generalized results, at best.
Watch your child struggle in school with peers and with managing their emotions.
Get frequent phone calls from your child’s school about their disruptive behaviors.
Continue the cycle of reactive parenting, resorting to the same old worn out tactics, like threats, punishments, or running away, that just don’t work, that ruin your child’s relationship with you.
Watch your connection with your child slowly wither.
Lose sleep.
Constantly feel anxious about whether you are doing more harm than good.
Waste your precious energy on always trying to come up with consequences or put out fires.
Continue repeating yourself a million times for every request, leading to shouting and disciplinary tactics each time.
Keep feeling defeated and physically depleted.
Keep walking on eggshells around your child.
Feeling pressure, out of control, and a desperation for compliance.
Spend time and money on testing, assessments, and diagnoses for your child’s behavior.
Spend years in therapy trying to fix your strained or broken relationship with your child.
Have your child spend years of their life in therapy trying to heal from the suboptimal parenting you exposed them to.
Or, you could…
Feel peace and ease during your day.
Actually have the real, lasting patience you are longing for.
Watch your child be able to process their emotions, communicate better, and experience less frustration and tantrums.
Feel confident knowing you are doing exactly what your child needs to become a secure, confident, well-adjusted adult.
Enjoy pleasant interactions regularly with your child.
Rest assured knowing you are making a difference for future generations, affording them more meaningful connections and crucial life skills to thrive.
Watch your child form positive peer relationships.
No longer deal with being reactive and feel the guilt after.
Feel energized, lighter, and happier more often during your days.
Actually enjoy being with one another.
No longer feel like you’re failing or disappointing your family.
Feel like “I can do this!”.
Feel like you have space for whatever your child is feeling or experiencing.
Really understand your child and their feelings and behaviors.
Have smoother morning and bedtime routines, and smoother transitions.
Have your child wanting to come to you when they struggle.
Feel trust and respect between you and your child.
Know exactly how to talk to your child when they violate a boundary, fight with their sibling, show harmful behavior, engage in a power struggle, or have conflict or disagreement.
Watch your relationship with your child flourish.
Enjoy more outings and vacations.